Confusion, conjecture, mystery and sometimes, even madness always seem to surround the words of those who are famous for the “he said, she said” lines. You can never really get anything straightforward from them, only baseless thoughts, ideas and statements that are suspiciously lacking in validity and truth.  They never seem quite sure of the “specifics”.  When confronted with questions, their resources become nameless shadows and their references are only relegated to the status of the “he said, she said” category. “He said” this or, “she said” that. “He” or “She” can say many things about everything and nothing, but at the end of the day, when all is said and done, their words become the equivalent of the emptiness of a hand full of wind.
You see, what people really want the most these days are TWO things: PROOF and TRUTH. When making statements, you had better have your facts straight because at any moment you could be “called on to the carpet” for an explanation. Let me give you and example.  The other day, I had met a woman whose last name was “Debar”. I said, “Oh, your last name is Debar… do you know what it means”?  I just uttered the question in a passive manner, just really trying to carry on a light conversation. I fully anticipated the woman to answer, “yes”, as I had imagined that she probably had been asked the same question about a million times. I was taken by surprise when the woman answered, “no”. I hesitated for a moment and then said, “oh” softly. After a long pause between “should I tell her” and “why didn’t I keep my big mouth shout”, she said, “What does it mean”? This, Ladies and Gentleman, is known as “The Carpet”, meaning: explanations are in order! This is the moment of decision for some: go the “he said, she said” route or, just tell the truth and give the proof. I told her the truth, and said,” It means, “speech, the message, glad tidings, the law, the ten commandments”. She looked at me and said, “Really”? For a brief moment I stopped and realized that she was genuinely interested in the information that I had shared with her and was quietly contemplating the few morsels that I had mentioned.  I proceeded to tell her the “proof”. That “debar” was actually a Hebrew word and was written as follows: “dbr” - because the original Hebrew language was written without vowels. I could have gone on to tell her that every name in the Hebrew language has positive and negative connotations and that her name also meant: death, disaster and bubonic plague. But why bring despair when healing and hope were waiting in the wings? I could have also told her that her name was actually a choice and that she had to choose every moment of every day to rise above the negative meanings of her name to reach the positive potential that she was capable of. So many things…. So much information… (Sigh)… In the end, it was simply enough that I told her the summary of her name. All in all, her name meant “righteousness”. That was enough for her.
PROOF and TRUTH have their place and so does “he said, she said”. Better to gain knowledge through proof and truth than to receive it through the vanities of hearsay!